Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. People who trust each other are happy together. They know that the other person is doing what is in both people’s best interest. There are fewer disagreements and fights. They are in accord in all of their decisions and efforts.

But when that trust is lost, the balance of the whole relationship is off. Gaining the trust back is the first step to rebuilding a relationship.

1. Admit Fault

No matter what happened for the trust to be lost, the first and most powerful step to regaining it is to admit being at fault. Do not attempt to justify your actions and definitely do not try to blame it on someone else. You have control over everything that happens to you in life.

It may not be easy, but stepping away from a situation that threatens your relationship is always an option. Be humble in this process, and do not be surprised if it is not as graciously accepted as you may have hoped.

2. Be Patient

The next step is to remain patient. You never know how long it takes for someone to heal from being let down and disappointed, so do not rush it. This will only tell them that you have no idea what pain you have caused them.

Had you not abused their trust in the first place, they would not be in this position. There is no rule book on how to give someone your trust back and forgive, so do not put someone in this position then expect them to act like you would. They need time to rebuild the feelings that gave them the faith to take this journey with you. Give it to them.

3. Empathize

Empathizing with your significant other can help quicken this pace. If you constantly disagree with the feelings they have toward your action, it only takes longer. Show you understand that you are wrong and that their feelings are justified.
Start regaining your partner’s trust by doing what you say you are going to do.

If you can commit to not hurting them again, do so and follow through. But if you cannot, do not waste their time and feelings. Otherwise, be where you say you will be, consider their feelings, ask their opinion, and put yourself in their position. If need be, consider counseling. Having a third party assess the situation and offer advice can be fruitful.
Regaining another person’s trust is not an easy task.

In fact, it will be harder to regain it than it was to initially gain it. Put in the necessary work and be sensitive to their feelings, and the relationship will once again blossom.

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However, anyone in a failing marriage will say that this is easier said than done, and is more likely to get you wound up and frustrated than on the road to recovery.

It is definitely easier to let a marriage end than to try and save it so for your determination to save it .. I commend you.

If you’re looking for help, you’re acknowledging there’s a problem, and making the conscious decision to try and fix it.

Recognition of a problem is the first step.

Although I have said that just talking with your spouse won’t fix you marriage, it goes without saying that a marriage is built on trust and communication. There are many scenarios where the trust in one spouse has been lost, for whatever reason.

In these cases, talking it out is crucial. You need to know where the problem lies, where the differences in opinion arise. It’s better to know what you’re up against than to stumble in blindly to a very delicate situation.

Anger, frustration and confusion are all very normal, natural feelings to have when you feel that your trust has been lost, or when in fact it is you in which the trust has been lost.

It helps no-one to bottle up what we are feeling, as things get lost in translation and small problems or niggling worries turn into much more hassle.

Sometimes, this will be difficult. In every situation, there is a partner who feels let down, abandoned, used, whatever it may be, and communication is not as easily maintained.

At this stage, outside help is required, as this is obviously a much bigger problem than two irate, angry and hurt people can deal with objectively.

This is not a sign of weakness, it is a show of determination that you are in it for the long haul, that you really want to save your marriage. It’s all about effort. For better or for worse. If you don’t try, then you won’t succeed.

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Their seminal book, “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” has sold about 500,000 copies in about 10 years and has helped many couples in their relationships.

The workbook is part of a package of products from 2 doctors, husband and wife, who are also experienced relationship counsellors.

Through their own professional practice and research they have updated and improved the original work to accommodate the difficult environment faced by couples today.

The book and the program is not just aimed at engaged couples but also at people who are newly married, those embarking on their second marriage and even single couples who wish to deepen their relationship.

The workbook is one part of the overall program and there is one for men and one for women. It is designed to let you implement what you learn in the program in your relationship with a series of exercises and self-tests.

There are 24 exercises in all and each is designed to improve your understanding of how to improve your relationship with a personal “10 commandments”, your spiritual and sexual outlook and other foundation stones for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

The workbooks, and indeed the whole program, are suitable for not only individual couples but small groups and for marriage and relationship counsellors who run their own programs.

The estimated time for completion of each exercise is also outlined so that there is no excuse for not fitting it into a sometimes hectic lifestyle.

One of the big benefits of the “Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts” program is that it encourages and assists couples to open up to each other before they embark on a lifelong commitment.