When you head out to do grocery shopping, run errands, or travel for a business trip does your significant other ever have second thoughts about what you are actually doing?


Does he or she ever go through your emails or text messages? If you are in a good relationship currently, your answer to these questions is probably “no.” It is great, and it is important to preserve this treasure called trust, on both ends of the relationship.

Being trustworthy is something we take for granted, until we do something to lose that trust. We do not realize what a great feeling it is to be able to have our partners’ full trust and support in everything we do. We do not feel the need to verify our day’s events, or surrender emails to our significant others. We can go about our day normally knowing that our significant other trusts us. We do not realize how important this trustworthiness is to the relationship until it is lost.

As stated many a time before, trust is easily lost, and difficulty gained. Once a person does something dishonest or hurts another person, the significant other’s trust may never return to its former level. Not only does this hurt the relationship, but it also affects you.

In order to regain that trust you will have to modify all of your activities so that they can be seen as undoubtedly honest in the other’s sight. It is a painful, tedious process for both parties. The one who lost the other’s trust will be forever proving him-/herself, and the other will be irreparably scarred. No matter how much better the situation may get, there will always be remnants of the pain present.

Instead of living normally from day to day, be proactive by always being considerate of your significant other. Check in with him or her from time to time. Give them prior notice if you must meet someone of the opposite sex in a private place. See how they feel about anything that may possibly come into question later.

If there is anything that you would find suspicious were you in there position, bring it to their attention. They will appreciate the gesture, and it will establish that no secrets are kept between you two. This way, trust is never lost. They will always be able to give you the benefit of the doubt. The relationship will be a happy and long one.

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Many people in relationships are unhappy simply because they fail to see that in many situations they have a choice to make between choosing to be happy or accepting that they have been dealt a very bad deal and there is nothing to be done about it.It does not have to be so..


Amidst the many responsibilities adults today hold, a responsibility they have to themselves is to remain happy. This begs the question, “how is happiness a responsibility?” Well, happiness is not only a feeling, it is a choice. Choosing to be happy despite circumstances has the power to change those circumstances. The key word here is “choose.”

People’s circumstances change daily. One day work might go well, and the next might be completely horrible. Many people believe that a person’s happiness depends on their circumstances. This may be true in the sense that one’s circumstances can affect their happiness, but they do not dictate it. There is always the possibility of something good coming from a situation, or the situation could always be worse in some way. Choosing to be happy is saying that no matter what the situation may look like, I am going to find some way to take pleasure in life, even in this particular moment.

A great part of being happy is being grateful. People may look at their circumstances and see only what is wrong. They notice only what could be better. Instead, learn to be grateful by focusing on what is going right. There are so many things that people take for granted, the greatest of which is life itself. Whenever a person feels down, frustrated, or like giving up, they should take a deep breath and be grateful for the ability to even do so.

Choosing to be happy plays a role in circumstances as well. One could be in a seemingly hopeless situation, but by choosing to remain calm and have a happy outlook, they can think logically through it and find a solution. In addition, when a person has to work with others through a difficult time, keeping a positive outlook may be difficult, but will undoubtedly make working together better. Everyone likes a cheerful person. The people who are successful in life are not the ones that whine and frown at every bad situation; they are the ones that force a smile, clear their thoughts of negative feelings, and put in good work.

Happiness is choosing to be positive regardless of what the world may tell you. It is keeping the hope that things will turn out fine, and that all will be well. This positively affects one’s life, and even the lives around him or her. People feed off of positive energy, so choosing to be happy is good for everyone.

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Trust is vital in a healthy, successful relationship. But sometimes we lose trust in our partner or vice versa and it is critical to regain this lost trust if the avoidance of a festering wound in your relationship is not to continue..


Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. People who trust each other are happy together. They know that the other person is doing what is in both people’s best interest. There are fewer disagreements and fights. They are in accord in all of their decisions and efforts.

But when that trust is lost, the balance of the whole relationship is off. Gaining the trust back is the first step to rebuilding a relationship.

1. Admit Fault

No matter what happened for the trust to be lost, the first and most powerful step to regaining it is to admit being at fault. Do not attempt to justify your actions and definitely do not try to blame it on someone else. You have control over everything that happens to you in life.

It may not be easy, but stepping away from a situation that threatens your relationship is always an option. Be humble in this process, and do not be surprised if it is not as graciously accepted as you may have hoped.

2. Be Patient

The next step is to remain patient. You never know how long it takes for someone to heal from being let down and disappointed, so do not rush it. This will only tell them that you have no idea what pain you have caused them.

Had you not abused their trust in the first place, they would not be in this position. There is no rule book on how to give someone your trust back and forgive, so do not put someone in this position then expect them to act like you would. They need time to rebuild the feelings that gave them the faith to take this journey with you. Give it to them.

3. Empathize

Empathizing with your significant other can help quicken this pace. If you constantly disagree with the feelings they have toward your action, it only takes longer. Show you understand that you are wrong and that their feelings are justified.
Start regaining your partner’s trust by doing what you say you are going to do.

If you can commit to not hurting them again, do so and follow through. But if you cannot, do not waste their time and feelings. Otherwise, be where you say you will be, consider their feelings, ask their opinion, and put yourself in their position. If need be, consider counseling. Having a third party assess the situation and offer advice can be fruitful.
Regaining another person’s trust is not an easy task.

In fact, it will be harder to regain it than it was to initially gain it. Put in the necessary work and be sensitive to their feelings, and the relationship will once again blossom.

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Step 1-Schedule time together

This time must be regular, like at least once a week, and there should be no excuses for failing to make it.


Work, guys nights out, girls nights out, sport and all these other things have an important place to play in both your lives.

But if you want to fix a broken relationship, then you will need to work at it..and with sufficient committment that when you commit to quiet time between just the two of you that you both fulfill the agreement.

Step 2-Go on Dates

Organise regular dates, just like the old days, with some time apart before the date to create a frisson of excitement like the old days.

Step 3-Prioritize

If you want to fix a broken relationship you will both need to recognize the problem and commit to finding a solution..no matter how busy work is or any other distraction. You need to see putting your relationship back on track as the number 1 priority in your lives for now. Because if you don’t the pattern of behaviour which has led to the fracture will become habit and reinforced and become even more difficult to change.

Step 4-Forgive

You will need to forgive your partner’s failings when he/she is prepared to recognize them and commits to rectifying the situation. Carrying a grudge is a lonely job and will not help your relationship. This is not a one way street and hopefully your partner will take the same attitude and recognize that “hey I am not perfect, but I am sorry”.

Step 5-Recognize the differences between men and women

and celebrate them..don’t let them be a barrier to a loving relationship with someone who was your best friend not so many years ago.

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For better or for worse, right? The immortal words that ring in our ears when things aren’t going so great, when our marriage suddenly isn’t all roses and sunshine and the person we married doesn’t seem the same.


To have and to hold, for better or for worse can prove to be difficult promises to live up to.

Marital difficulties are fraught with danger for the long term relationship.

There is no clear cut version of advice that can be found. This isn’t like building a shed, or curing a cold. There are no old wives tales or free blueprints available to help you through the hard times. It’s up to you.

But you can give yourself the best chance of success by following these 3 keys.

1. You Have to Try

It’s all about effort. You will get what you put in. Moping around, avoiding your other half, complaining about how it’s not the same, will get you nothing but more hassle and a crumbling marriage around you.

2. Communicate

At times like this, it’s all about communication. A problem that you know is better than one you don’t.

Marriage is not all about self-sacrifice. Just because you get married doesn’t mean you have to lose yourself.

Some people can find that they lose the essence of themselves when they get married, as they are more wrapped up in the idea of being part of a whole.

This can lead to resentment, and once this builds up, it takes a lot to let go of it. You need to be able to trust your spouse, to communicate with them, to let them know that you’re not happy.

You have to want to save this marriage. If you show no effort, no real interest in how it turns out, your spouse will see that too, and things will fall.

At the end of the day, in the harsh light of reality, marriage is a contract that you have to work at.

You took vows, you made a promise, and now, when the going gets tough, it’s your time to show you real commitment to it. For better or for worse.

3. Acquire the necessary skills

Give yourself your best chance of doing so by arming yourself with some basic tools and skills..that can be easily acquired.

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Some will say that the best way to save a marriage is to simply talk with your spouse and work out your differences; to straighten out the kinks that have formed over time.


However, anyone in a failing marriage will say that this is easier said than done, and is more likely to get you wound up and frustrated than on the road to recovery.

It is definitely easier to let a marriage end than to try and save it so for your determination to save it .. I commend you.

If you’re looking for help, you’re acknowledging there’s a problem, and making the conscious decision to try and fix it.

Recognition of a problem is the first step.

Although I have said that just talking with your spouse won’t fix you marriage, it goes without saying that a marriage is built on trust and communication. There are many scenarios where the trust in one spouse has been lost, for whatever reason.

In these cases, talking it out is crucial. You need to know where the problem lies, where the differences in opinion arise. It’s better to know what you’re up against than to stumble in blindly to a very delicate situation.

Anger, frustration and confusion are all very normal, natural feelings to have when you feel that your trust has been lost, or when in fact it is you in which the trust has been lost.

It helps no-one to bottle up what we are feeling, as things get lost in translation and small problems or niggling worries turn into much more hassle.

Sometimes, this will be difficult. In every situation, there is a partner who feels let down, abandoned, used, whatever it may be, and communication is not as easily maintained.

At this stage, outside help is required, as this is obviously a much bigger problem than two irate, angry and hurt people can deal with objectively.

This is not a sign of weakness, it is a show of determination that you are in it for the long haul, that you really want to save your marriage. It’s all about effort. For better or for worse. If you don’t try, then you won’t succeed.

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The passing years are hard on relationships and particularly marriage. With most relationships you can always walk away and start again with someone else.


But when you marry your best friend and have 4 children together and the onset of time and years of taking each other for granted take a heavy toll on your relationship…then it is not a question of starting again.

The passing years are hard on relationships and particularly marriage.

With most relationships you can always walk away and start again with someone else. But when you marry your best friend and have 4 children together and the onset of time and years of taking each other for granted take a heavy toll on your relationship…then it is not a question of starting again.

Because of the committment, the children that you both love and on many occasions property ownership are major ties that bind and complicating factors.

So..

Tip 1-Work at your relationship

Don’t fall into the trap of “well this is the way I am..take it or leave it”. You must recognise your harmful behaviors and work at amending them so that you both can recognise the person that you fell in love with all those years ago.

Tip2-Make time together

This time should be just for you and your partner, without distractions. And you must commit to this and clear your schedule to accomodate it at least once a week where you will both discuss how life is, what happened during the day/week and how you are feeling.

Tip 3-Make dates

Yes, dates like when you started going out together..and make it as realistic as possible with even a little time apart before your date to build the anticipation of meeting and even giving yourself a blast from the past of what it was like when you first met.

These 3 tips helped me in saving my marriage..they can help you too.

But your partner must be prepared to commit to changing the existing pattern of your relationship along with you.

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The first step on the road to repairing a broken marriage, or relationship, is to be totally honest with each other and recognise that there is a problem.


This problem and breakdown in your relationship will not be addressed by failing to tackle it head on. And this means communication.

Key 1-Honesty

The first step on the road to repairing a broken marriage, or relationship, is to be totally honest with each other and recognise that there is a problem.

This problem and breakdown in your relationship will not be addressed by failing to tackle it head on. And this means communication.

Both of you will need to communicate openly, honestly and freely in order to thrash out the major underlying reason for the breakdown in the relationship.

You will need to address the key points that are a problem for you in your relationship..but you will also need to listen to your partner. And recognise their needs and what they perceive to be problems.

Key 2 -Communicate

Your whole method of communicating can be a major stumbling block in a relationship. The way you communicate after being together for many years can become abrupt and closed.

Unlike the way you used to communicate when you first met and never got fed up of just talking to one another.

Both you and your partner will need to put time aside every day no matter how hectic the schedules are to rediscover your ability to communicate like you used to.

Key 3-Respect

You need to respect your partner’s worldview, although you may not always agree. You will also need to respect the difference between a man and a woman and the huge difference in interests between the sexes.

You should celebrate and embrace this difference rather than letting it stay as an impediment in your relationship.

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In this post I give you 3 keys to saving your marriage..whether it is troubled by depression, addiction or if simply, and more often, the thrill has gone. It does not have to be like that.


Key no. 1- Don’t sweat the small stuff

The little things, the little issues, are only symptoms of a bigger problem. You must address the underlying cause of these symptoms and see the bigger picture.

Remember when you first met? The little things were not a problem then..and they should not be now either. If you address the fundamental thing that is gone wrong in your relationship.

Key no. 2- Understand your expectations in your marriage

You must have a good understanding of marriage as not being a fairytale as you are led to believe as a little boy or girl. You must recognise that we are all imperfect human beings and that it is fine to be imperfect..and it is also fine for your partner to be imperfect also.

Key no. 3- Recognise the difference between men and women

You know that book “Men are from Venus, women are from Mars”?
Men and women are intrinsically different and this difference leading to different outlooks and interests sometimes should not be castigated or criticized.

Rather the difference should be embraces and celebrated.

Remember that there are 3 sides to every story..yours, his/hers and the truth.

To make your marriage work, and you will have to work at it, you need to equip yourself with the knowledge and the tools to understand one another.

You will need to embrace the differences between you and see the big picture, the reason why you came together in the first place. And the reason why you want to stay together into the future.

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The workbook is part of a package of products from 2 doctors, husband and wife, who are also experienced relationship counsellors.


Their seminal book, “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” has sold about 500,000 copies in about 10 years and has helped many couples in their relationships.

The workbook is part of a package of products from 2 doctors, husband and wife, who are also experienced relationship counsellors.

Through their own professional practice and research they have updated and improved the original work to accommodate the difficult environment faced by couples today.

The book and the program is not just aimed at engaged couples but also at people who are newly married, those embarking on their second marriage and even single couples who wish to deepen their relationship.

The workbook is one part of the overall program and there is one for men and one for women. It is designed to let you implement what you learn in the program in your relationship with a series of exercises and self-tests.

There are 24 exercises in all and each is designed to improve your understanding of how to improve your relationship with a personal “10 commandments”, your spiritual and sexual outlook and other foundation stones for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

The workbooks, and indeed the whole program, are suitable for not only individual couples but small groups and for marriage and relationship counsellors who run their own programs.

The estimated time for completion of each exercise is also outlined so that there is no excuse for not fitting it into a sometimes hectic lifestyle.

One of the big benefits of the “Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts” program is that it encourages and assists couples to open up to each other before they embark on a lifelong commitment.