In this article I look at a famous relationship help book called “Saving your marriage before it starts” which has amazingly sold more than 500,000 copies since it was first published.


It is of particular benefit to couples who are engaged or are newly wed.

Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts by 2 famous relationship doctors whose main modus operandi is to ask 7 questions to help shatter various myths surrounding marriage.

The main purpose of the book is to equip couples with tools they will need to maintain a successful marriage in these turbulent times. Since it was first published 10 years ago it has been updated and refined through the experience of the authors whose experience and research has ensured that this book has moved with the times.

It is more than just a book because part of the package also includes workbooks for both men and women which allows each person to self analyse through a series of questions and exercises to be carried out.

Also utilized and included are CDs and DVDs which includes the experiences of real life couples and there is also a module dealing with second marriage couples. The curriculum kit includes all these elements in 1 pack but each component can be bought separately.

The authors of this book, as well as being doctors, are marriage counselors and are married to each other and can draw on their own experiences as well as the huge amount of relationship counseling sessions that they conduct each year.

They draw on this experience to help couples make the transition from single to married and with the huge emphasis on wedding preparations nowadays, it is easy for young couples not to turn their minds at all to the relationship into which they are entering.

This book is written by 2 committed christians but it is less a spiritual book than a great tool kit for the building and enhancing of relationships, whether married or not. The use of the DVDs, video, CDs and workbooks makes it a great resource for anybody involved in premarital counselling also.

The book is built around 7 central questions..

1) Have you faced down the myth of marriage with honesty
2) Can you say what you mean and understand what you hear
3) Have you developed the habit of happiness
4) Are you and your partner soul mates
and so on.

If you would like more information on “Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts” and see customer reviews, special prices etc you can click here and check it out at Amazon.

When you head out to do grocery shopping, run errands, or travel for a business trip does your significant other ever have second thoughts about what you are actually doing?


Does he or she ever go through your emails or text messages? If you are in a good relationship currently, your answer to these questions is probably “no.” It is great, and it is important to preserve this treasure called trust, on both ends of the relationship.

Being trustworthy is something we take for granted, until we do something to lose that trust. We do not realize what a great feeling it is to be able to have our partners’ full trust and support in everything we do. We do not feel the need to verify our day’s events, or surrender emails to our significant others. We can go about our day normally knowing that our significant other trusts us. We do not realize how important this trustworthiness is to the relationship until it is lost.

As stated many a time before, trust is easily lost, and difficulty gained. Once a person does something dishonest or hurts another person, the significant other’s trust may never return to its former level. Not only does this hurt the relationship, but it also affects you.

In order to regain that trust you will have to modify all of your activities so that they can be seen as undoubtedly honest in the other’s sight. It is a painful, tedious process for both parties. The one who lost the other’s trust will be forever proving him-/herself, and the other will be irreparably scarred. No matter how much better the situation may get, there will always be remnants of the pain present.

Instead of living normally from day to day, be proactive by always being considerate of your significant other. Check in with him or her from time to time. Give them prior notice if you must meet someone of the opposite sex in a private place. See how they feel about anything that may possibly come into question later.

If there is anything that you would find suspicious were you in there position, bring it to their attention. They will appreciate the gesture, and it will establish that no secrets are kept between you two. This way, trust is never lost. They will always be able to give you the benefit of the doubt. The relationship will be a happy and long one.

There is a very popular downloadable ebook which has proven to be a huge success in helping people to get their ex back and rebuild relationships. You can check it out here.